Vocab question : I know one person can't speak for a whole group of people, but, in general, do bois/masc identified women like to be called "beautiful"? how about "pretty," or "handsome"? are there any terms that you prefer or don't like? personally when I call someone beautiful I'm not really referring to any feminine quality in them, but I understand it can be taken that way… and with someone I don't know I'm never sure what their reaction might be to these words… advice?
this is a GREAT question.
We too often struggle with language situations like these. Honestly, the term beautiful has taken on—in our opinion—such a feminine connotation that people get really alert when they hear it. As if only a feminine woman or a landscape can be ‘beautiful’. But it’s not the case. Bio-men can be just as pretty and beautiful as a feminine or bio woman. Likewise there are some women, no matter their gender preference or presentation who are just plain handsome.
At the end of the day, it goes back to the age old approach. Ask. If you’re not sure ask them how they’d feel being called beautiful or handsome or pretty. Many people will surprise you and receive your compliment or acknowledgement with grace and sincerity. Some will give you a side-eye trying to figure out if you’re trying to get at more than what you’ve said…but we think for the most part they’d be just a few of the myriad of humans you come into contact with on a regular basis.
If it it helps we think You’re beautiful for this great question and you’re right, it’s not generally about a physical shine more about that inner glow!!
” Mark Twain
Keep AWAY from people WHO try to BELITTLE your AMBITIONS. SMALL people ALWAYS do that, but the REALLY GREAT make you feel that YOU, TOO, can become GREAT. -